What are the Requirements to Become a Surrogate?
- Between the ages of 21 and 41
- Have given birth to at least one child with no complications
- Enjoy being pregnant
- BMI of 35 or less (most clinics require closer to a BMI of 31) – Calculate BMI
- Healthy lifestyle – no smoking, recreational drugs, alcohol abuse
- No more than two c-sections, sometimes three
- Reliable Transportation
- Not on public benefits such as Section 8 housing or disability.
- No history of depression unless can prove not on medications for at least 6 months
- Will do criminal history check
- We cannot work with surrogates who live in Michigan and Louisiana, because of the legal situation with surrogacy in those districts/states
What is Gestational Surrogacy?
Using the process of IVF (in-vitro fertilization) eggs are retrieved from the intended mother or egg donor’s ovaries and fertilized with the sperm of the intended father or sperm donor. Embryos are then transferred to the gestational surrogate mother’s uterus where she will carry the fetus to term and deliver a baby for the intended parents.
Why does a woman want to be a surrogate mother?
There are many reasons why a woman chooses to be a surrogate mother. Often a surrogate mother has had someone close to her experience infertility; wants to experience the joy of giving the most precious gift that one can give another; has a history of easy, uncomplicated pregnancies; knows the importance of her own children in her life; wants an opportunity to make a unique contribution to a family’s life. Our surrogates are women who have a very special loving and giving spirit. The financial rewards can often assist a surrogate and her family in realizing dreams and goals that would be otherwise unattainable such as buying a home or going back to school or staying at home with her own children.
How much compensation will I receive and how will I be paid?
You set your compensation. Generally, surrogates can expect to receive between $45,000+ for first time surrogates up to $60,000+ in compensation, benefits and reimbursements. You are not out of pocket during this process. If you have to travel, we arrange and pay. If you have lost wages we will pay them. If you need childcare, we pay. Mileage? We pay. You will also receive additional compensation for other procedures (as necessary and/or agreed to between you and your Intended Parents, such as amniocentesis, Cesarean, multiple births, and multiple IVF transfers). Once the gestational surrogacy agreement has been signed by you and your spouse and the Intended Parents, we require the Intended Parents to deposit funds anticipated for the entire process, plus an additional contingency amount, into an escrow account. You will be paid from these funds according to your signed gestational surrogacy agreement.
What is the difference between traditional and gestational surrogacy?
A Gestational Surrogate has no genetic link to the child/ren she is carrying; rather, the egg is provided either by the Intended Mother or an Egg Donor. A Traditional Surrogate is genetically related to the child she is carrying, she is both the Egg Donor and the Surrogate. The Traditional Surrogate is inseminated with the Father’s or Donor’s sperm monthly at ovulation until pregnancy occurs.
Why do you recommend that a Surrogate works through an agency such as Advocates for Surrogacy?
You can waste a great deal of time trying to match independently with Intended Parents who may not really be committed to the process, may not have their finances in order, and who have not been vetted. Finding Intended Parents is only the very first step. There are many details that need to be worked out and sometimes these details involve topics that are not always so easy to confront directly such as compensation amount, ensuring prompt payment, communication, and boundary setting. Having a professional guide you through these areas can save a great deal of frustration later. You may have a lawyer whom you trust or you have worked with before but depending on where your Intended Parents live, there may be more coordination required than your lawyer is prepared to provide. Insurance matters are critical and we can expertly guide you and your Intended Parents in the right direction so that you don’t end up having unpaid medical bills.
How do you evaluate potential Surrogates?
- We will interview potential surrogates either in person or by phone. If during the interview, it appears that you are ready and able to become a surrogate, we then ask you to complete an in-depth questionnaire inquiring about your medical, social, psychological and biographical history.
- You will need to provide ob/gyn and delivery records from each of your pregnancies.
- A criminal background check will be completed for you and your partner.
How will I be matched with Intended Parents?
You and the Intended Parents are asked to complete detailed questionnaires. Both questionnaires explore, in depth, the many facets of surrogacy, choices, preferences, and medical considerations. Based on the information in your profile, your views and our consultations with you, we review the profiles of Intended Parents to make sure that both parties agree on various issues. Once we determine that there is a potential match, we send the Intended Parents your profile and we send you the Intended Parents profile. Identifying information is not revealed initially. After both parties agree to move forward, identifying information is provided. Depending on your location and the Intended Parent(s)’ location, we set up a telephone consultation or a face to face meeting between you and the Intended Parent(s).
How long does it take to be matched?
It just depends on your requirements as a Surrogate as well as Intended Parent(s)’ requirements.
How much contact can I have with Intended Parent(s)?
When you complete your profile you tell us how much contact you want to have before, during and after the pregnancy. We will match you with Intended Parents who wants the same contact as you do.
The level of interaction between you and your Intended Parents is a personal preference between both parties. You will need to decide how much interaction you are comfortable having.
What is your application process?
Our application process starts with a telephone consultation with our President and Founder, an attorney. Depending on your location you can follow up with visits to our office or additional telephone consultations. You complete our application and we will complete background checks. She will review the process, legal considerations and provide a detailed questionnaire.
Where do I begin?
Please contact us. Once we have been contacted by you, we will answer any questions you have and discuss further how we can help you have an incredible and safe journey.